What do you take from a person, that has lied and hid things from everyone, who proceeds to tell you that they do not trust you? You. When you have done literally everything you can to prove yourself trustworthy and have done nothing to break that trust.
In reality, we all have made mistakes. We all lied at some point. We all hid things to hide from the shame. We are human. We grow and learn from those mistakes.
When someone in any kind of relationship shatters a mirror that once held the image of the two, it is clear to see there is no longer an image there. No longer a relationship. However, with some glue and forgiveness we find the mirror to be restored to some degree. The person betrayed can still see those cracks from the once seamless relationship, but can choose to give the benefit of the doubt to the other. What about the person that betrayed that trust? What do they see? Do they see those cracks and blame them on the one they betrayed? Do they refuse to see the mercy and forgiveness provided to them? Or perhaps the one who was once betrayed makes a slip. Does the first to betray provide forgiveness, or leave the pieces of broken glass on the ground?
Again, we all make errors. We all are victims of emotions. Sure, they can blow things out of proportion.
The important thing to note is when all those feelings are settled, where is the trust formed or where is it shattered?
Maybe we feel that someone has no excuse to not trust us, but do we blame them when they do not? Even when we trusted them after they destroyed all trust that was once there?
I am sure we all have different answers. It is just something to think about.
Shay
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